Would it be better to live alone, independent of others?
Question from the Internet:
“Is it better to be alone if all human relationships are a game of interests?”
It is a very good question. For the most useful answer, we would need to know who we are, what desires and intentions truly drive us, and what system or reality we exist in.
First of all, we are all born with a 100% self-centred, subjective and individualistic nature.
We can all make calculations and decisions, and we can act only for our own sake and interest. Thus it does not matter what we think about ourselves, what nice philosophies and dreams we have about how we relate to others. Whenever we connect to another person, even when we think we love others, it only serves our self-interest.
If I cannot gain something, at least a good feeling, some form of fulfilment or recognition as a result of “loving” another, I simply cannot love but hate and reject. This is how we are all programmed.
According to this, it would be better if we could all get on with our individual lives and do whatever we want for ourselves without engaging with others, as if everybody lived separately, in their own fortresses and caves without ever engaging with others.
The “problem” is that we exist in a fully integrated and interdependent Natural reality.
In Nature, all elements and parts are inevitably and irrevocably interconnected and can’t even exist without positive, sustainable, mutually responsible, and mutually complementary cooperation.
What we learn about human society today is that we also evolved into a globally integrated and interdependent world. And this is not because we did or built something — like markets, media, entertainment, Internet, travel and so on. It is because Nature’s laws and evolution’s relentless drive towards the most optimally integrated and cooperating system forced us.
Thus we can’t just exist in an independent, individualistic way.
In fact, we would not survive even for weeks without constant mutual cooperation, locally and globally. We can’t even comprehend the mounting global problems that threaten our existence, let alone solve them without global cooperation and collective thinking.
So we have no other option but to change ourselves and develop a completely different worldview and attitude towards others and the world. On this depends our continuing and collective human survival in Nature’s finely balanced and mutually integrated system.