Why We Need to Develop Fear Before We Achieve True Love

Understanding Our Inherent Nature

By default, humans are born with an egocentric, subjective, and individualistic nature. We operate based on self-serving calculations, constantly seeking to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. Our natural state compels us to do everything for our own benefit. Even when we think we love others, it is often motivated by the selfish fulfillment we gain from that love. Without some form of personal reward, we find it difficult to act, even for the most basic tasks.

The Challenge of True Love

True love, which involves fulfilling the desires and needs of others according to their perspectives, is something that requires conscious effort and practice. This form of love must be developed above and against our inherent self-love. It is a process that cannot occur naturally; instead, it requires a special environment and method. In this setting, individuals commit fully to a common goal: achieving true love for one another, devoid of selfish motives.

The Struggle Against the Ego

As individuals begin practicing the method of achieving true love, they enter into a binding covenant with their group, pledging not to escape the process and to support each other unconditionally. However, this is where they begin to encounter resistance from their own egos. The more effort they put into forming genuine connections with each other, the more their inherent selfishness fights back. Negative judgments, criticisms, and feelings of rejection toward others start to surface.

The Emergence of Spiritual Fear

Initially, people only experience fear related to their personal well-being or self-esteem, worrying about whether they will succeed or how others perceive them. But as they deepen their mutual commitment, a new kind of fear arises — spiritual fear. This fear is not for oneself but for the collective effort. They start to fear that their selfish egos will disrupt the group’s unity and prevent the development of true love.

This fear is no longer about personal failure but about causing harm to others, even through selfish thoughts and intentions. It becomes a spiritual fear, a fear of one’s own ego and the potential damage it might inflict on the collective effort to achieve mutual love.

Nullifying the Ego for True Love

As this spiritual fear intensifies, individuals develop an overwhelming desire to nullify their egos. They want to ensure that their selfish tendencies do not interfere with the collective goal of building true love. At this point, their desires, aspirations, and fears align not only with each other but also with the natural, evolutionary direction of life, which promotes mutual integration and selfless love as the foundation of creation.

Aligning with Nature’s Evolutionary Force

When individuals’ desires harmonize with the life-creating force of nature, they start to feel unprecedented assistance from natural forces. These forces help them connect, support, and serve one another in ways that transcend their inherent egoistic tendencies. Their egos now serve as a contrast, highlighting the beauty and power of their newfound ability to bestow love and care selflessly.

The Role of Spiritual Fear in Achieving True Love

Spiritual fear becomes the driving force behind the transformation. It shifts the focus away from personal or material benefit and toward the fear of harming the collective. This fear propels individuals to act in harmony with nature’s life-creating and nurturing force, opening the path to true love. With this new ability, they experience nature’s integral and benevolent energy flowing through them, animating and sustaining their unity.

Experiencing Eternal Pleasure Through Unity

As individuals reach this state of integration, they start to understand the deeper workings of nature’s governing force, which lovingly creates and nurtures life. They feel a profound sense of contentment and pleasure, akin to the balance and homeostasis of the entire natural system. Now, as conscious participants in this life-giving process, they share in the eternal and “otherworldly” pleasure that comes from true love and unity.

In summary, the development of spiritual fear — fear of one’s own ego disrupting the collective — becomes the gateway to achieving true love. This fear shifts the focus from self to others, aligning with the natural forces that govern life and ultimately leading to a state of profound, eternal pleasure.