Why do we want everything only for ourselves?

Zsolt Hermann
3 min readDec 7, 2022

Question from the Internet:

“Why do we desire the best for ourselves, and how do we relate it to human evolution?”

As unique empirical natural scientists — who have been studying human nature for millennia — explain, our matter, and in fact, the matter of the whole of reality is a desire. Reality exist based on the desire to exist and the desire to receive pleasure and fulfillment.

When we examine anything and everything in the world, it exists based on this desire.

Even inanimate objects have the desire to maintain their actual structure; without this desire, they would simply fall apart and would not exist.

And when we look at plants, animals, and especially humans, we can detect this constantly awakening and intensifying desire for existence and receiving fulfillment every moment.

In human beings, this is very easy to examine.

If we did not feel — consciously or unconsciously — this insatiable and ever-growing desire to exist and fulfill our constantly demanding desire — for food, sex, family, wealth, power, respect, and knowledge — we would not move or even get out of bed, and we would simply wither away.

There is a huge difference between this “primordial desire” driving reality between human beings and everything else in the world. All other parts and elements in natural reality maintain a fragile and crucial mutual and general balance and homeostasis that is necessary for life.

We can see how the cells and organs of our biological body exist, taking for themselves only what is necessary for their most optimal existence, so they can selflessly and unconditionally serve the whole system since their individual survival, and the survival of the whole body is one and the same.

While it is a bit more difficult to observe, the whole natural reality exists and operates this way. Each part and element has its own unique, irreplaceable role and function towards the whole, towards maintaining the general balance and homeostasis. They never take more than they need, and they never do anything else, but their unique function and the calculations for the whole system override all selfish, individualistic calculations.

Human beings are the opposite. We calculate everything all the time only for our own 100% egotistic and subjective benefit. We knowingly or unknowingly constantly survive and succeed at the expense of others and the whole system since — if we have the opportunity — accumulate and consume everything way beyond our necessities — which necessities we are not even aware of since we are not integrated into the natural system.

Thus it is not enough that we constantly want the best for ourselves. We want nothing else but the best for ourselves, which “best” is everything and anything without taking into consideration anything or anybody else.

This is why human beings exist and behave like cancer and this is why today we are standing at the brink of global self-destruction.

Only when we study and humbly understand our inherent nature and how “unnatural” and destructive it is can we start changing and adapting ourselves until we also become like the rest of the natural system.

Our human advantage is that we achieve this consciously, willingly, and by our own efforts. And that will catapult us to a very unique and high state on Nature’s system, becoming the system’s only fully conscious, integrated, and at the same time independent observers and equal partners.

And this is our unique, evolutionary purpose in Nature, and this is why Nature initially created us opposite and “outside” of its system so we could find our way back to it ourselves.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.