When will giving to others become truly rewarding?

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readJan 14, 2023

Question from the Internet:

“Why does it feel so rewarding when we try to help others and make our world a better place to live in? How pointless would our lives be if we remained indifferent to the plight of others around us?”

While I fully agree with your sentiment, and I also believe that this is our ideal future situation, when we look at the “real world,” we do not see this working anywhere.

We might say what you say, we have countless movies, novels, theories, and philosophies detailing this notion, but in our day-to-day life, we cannot implement it. We might even act graciously to others when we have everything and some surplus of energy, ability, and resources, and especially when from “giving” and “supporting,” we receive respect, recognition, and control over others.

When it comes to “crunch time,” we all revert to our instinctive program, which is 100% egocentric and subjective self-service; we feel true reward only in fulfilling our own desires from pleasure while escaping from our own pain and suffering.

We are not evil, nor are we sinful. We are all born with a completely self-serving, self-justifying nature and 100% egocentric and subjective calculations based on introverted pleasure and pain. There is no other active software in us.

It is true that we have a different, but so far, dormant software in us as well. This inactive software is a remnant from Nature that gave us life in the first place.

In Nature, all elements act through selfless and unconditional service and mutually complementing cooperation in order to sustain the general balance and homeostasis that is crucially necessary for life. While we see — from our distorted human perspective — killing and destruction in Nature, we do not understand how each and every still, vegetative and animate element simply play out their role for the harmonious “circle of life” to unfold and develop.

On the other hand, human beings are the only parts of Nature that can recognize their inherently destructive and self-destructive inner software and can actively develop themselves and perform a unique self-upgrade.

We can revive and fully develop that dormant, Natural software in us that can complement and neutralize our inherently cancer-like behavior and existence. And it is specifically this duality that will make us Human beings.

Human beings are Nature’s creatures that developed themselves above and against their inherent and instinctive nature, becoming the Natural system’s only conscious, fully and seamlessly integrated, and at the same time independent, benevolent observers.

Then we will consider helping, supporting, and unconditionally serving others the greatest reward and the purpose of our life. Then we will understand that this selfless and unconditional service of others is “true love,” that the whole Natural reality is built on this “true love,” and that being active elements in this “true love” is the greatest, infinite and unbounded happiness we can ever attain.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.