We can freely enjoy life, plus the realistic, tangible ability to “create and nurture life”!

Zsolt Hermann
3 min readJul 21, 2020

Opinion from the Internet about condemning “selfish enjoyment” of life:

“I am puzzled. There is an absolute sense that ego is a chain that binds us. I sense a strand of truth to what you say, perhaps more than a strand but also that you have trapped yourself in a world view that locks out the joy, play, involvement with each other when we exalt in a mutual love of each other and what we may do together.

ls my pleasure of discovery ego?

When I have heard that one of my images made someone cry I have a quiet feeling for which I cannot find a word. When I visit a new doctor and find five of my rather large prints hanging outside his office is the quiet pleasure I feel all ego?
i am trying to put my finger on a complex mixture of thoughts and emotions.

I find myself feeling a rebellion against my perception of your characterization that this is all ego.

I do have a satisfaction of what I have created but in the process there is a mixture of a joy of discovery of things I did not know existed, of pleasure in someone else’s pleasure, of the fun or joy of the journey, of gratitude for those who helped along the way. And an un bounded amazement that what ever made this possible gave me such fabulous gifts, not to me alone, but to humanity.

Does all this sum up to ego? Is pleasure in discovery ego?

Does my frustration that I cannot approach Kristian Zimerman’s playing combined with an occasional sense that I have touched Chopin all add up to ego? In certainly over the 10,000 times I have played this one piece in frustration combined with gratitude for Chopin, the piano, the fabulous room, the fact my grand father got the whole ball rolling add up to ego.

I am afraid I find truth of a sort and revulsion at a characterization of life so simply. It is a jumble of much intelligence, compassion, stupidity and selfishness and my wonder that it originated as an incomprehensible singularity.”

First of all I am not condemning anyone or anything. I am an empirical, natural scientists, trying to research, describe Human nature while comparing it to the only absolute standard we have - Nature’s perfectly balanced system surrounding us.

And as all scientists I have to grapple with a few problems.

First of all like anybody else, I was born with an introverted, subjective consciousness, perception. Thus until I develop further - with a unique, scientific, educational method - my observations, conclusions will remain by fault skewed.

Moreover a scientist has to develop the right vocabulary, expressions in order to pass on, publicize one’s findings, expressions, and this is also a work in progress.

This is why these conversations are invaluable, helping me to adjust, fine-tune.

The bottom line - responding to your “soul searching” - is that there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying life, finding multiple avenues how we can “connect to the Universe”, sensing and justifying perfection where we encounter it.

What we need to develop now - as we evolved into a fully integrated and interdependent world - is the unparalleled, unique Human ability to enjoy reality, everything the Universe had to offer, for each other’s sake, taking everybody into consideration.

This way we gain an extraordinary reward.

If we can build a Human society, where each cares about the fulfillment, happiness of all the others, as much as one cares about one’s own fullfilment, happiness, besides having everything we need for ourselves we also start sensing a qualitatively much greater, incomparable joy, contentment by providing fullfilment, contentment for others.

Through the extraordinary circulation, mutual giving we can develop through a unique purposeful and practical method, we can add to our inherent, instinctive inclination, program of self-fullfilment this new, selfless, altruistic intention.

By that we become active adapters, partners in Nature’s “circle of life”, receiving a true, realistic, tangible sense of “creating, nurturing life”, compared to which a mother’s sense of giving birth is like a grain of same compared to the Universe!

This is all within our abilities, moreover this is exactly what Nature’s evolution wants us to progress towards.

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Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.