We are the prisoners of our desires

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readFeb 19, 2022

Question from the Internet:

“Why must you act immediately on your desires?”

Because this is how we are built. Our actual “matter”, our single driving engine is an insatiable desire for selfish fulfillment, pleasures for ourselves while escaping from suffering and pain at any cost.

This egocentric, subjective “pleasure/pain principle” is the only thing that keeps us alive and motivates everything we do.

As long as we live in an illusion that we are intellectual beings, that can act above or even against their desires, planning and executing things with a “cool”, objective head we remain in the trap of our own “self-addiction”.

Only when we recognized and accepted the engine that drives us and we also understand that we can never suppress, erase our selfish desires since then we would stop existing can we do something. On then can we learn how to harness, channel the driving forces, emotions, desires, and their intention in us.

We can build special interconnections between us, building a unique, common pool of desires, where we each commit to trying to sense and fulfill the desires of others instead of focusing on our own desires.

We gain multifold by this.

BY trying to exit in the desires of others we gain an “infinite” field of desires we can work with and we can fulfill. Since we are not working with our own limited, easy to satiate desires we never reach satiation, turn off, sleepiness, loss of hunger.

When we do this mutually we create a perfect, Nature-like system where each receives exactly what they need, proportionately to how much they selflessly, unconditionally fulfill the desires of others.

And since we “exit ourselves” we forget about our own needs, existence since others automatically give us everything we need, we start to exist in a unique collective consciousness, perception of reality as we see everything through the viewpoints of others.

And as a result, our actual sense of life, perception of reality, and consciousness rise above the usual, subjective and egocentric limitations of time, space, and physical motion.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.