Understanding Shame and Love in Kabbalistic Thought

Zsolt Hermann
3 min readJan 13, 2025

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In the realm of human emotions, the experience of shame when receiving gifts is quite common. This sentiment often arises when one feels unable to reciprocate the generosity of another. However, in the spiritual teachings of Kabbalah, a profound understanding emerges: if one perceives the love driving the giver and realizes that accepting this gift with reciprocal love can cancel the shame, a transformative experience occurs. This concept underscores the significance of intention in harmonizing actions, where a similarity in intention can nullify the shame derived from opposing actions.

The existence of creation is a captivating paradox. While all beings inherently and unashamedly accept their existence and sustenance from the Creator, it is uniquely human to experience shame, prompting us to reciprocate the Creator’s love in an attempt to alleviate this sense of inadequacy. By refusing to accept our existence and the Creator’s love, we inadvertently mar the creation and tarnish His love. Therefore, the human journey is one of reciprocating His love to perfect creation, thereby endorsing, justifying, and fulfilling the Creator’s intentions.

At its core, human existence is a journey towards understanding, accepting, and appreciating the Creator’s love above all else. This journey is not about the tangible actions, situations, or states we encounter but rather about the intention of loving and bestowing that aligns with the Creator’s will. The fragmentation of a single soul into multiple fragments and the potential to cultivate loving relationships between these fragments presents us with a unique opportunity. By fostering relationships among “equal mortals,” we begin to experience and comprehend His love and bestowal through the development of similarity.

In this way, by nurturing our connections with others, we experience His love and bestowal, neutralizing our shame through this likeness and equality with Him. The Creator, in His wisdom, determines when we feel we receive everything from Him. However, we can evoke this sensation in advance by consciously striving to emulate His qualities and intentions, guided by the methods bestowed upon us by Kabbalists.

Nevertheless, the minimal similarity we achieve through our communal love and bestowal merely highlights our inadequacies in matching His love. This realization triggers genuine shame and inspires sincere prayer, urging us to earnestly seek the ability to love as He loves. With His assistance, we must learn and practice to align with His boundless, ever-expanding love. Though the strength and capacity come from Him, the emotional impressions that spark prayer arise from our mutual efforts within the structured and purposeful environment of a Kabbalistic group.

This process is the essence of life and human existence: to cultivate an ever-growing yearning and desperation to match and reciprocate His infinite love, generating a constant and ever-deepening prayer directed towards Him. However, this profound interaction and communication with the Creator can only flourish within the unique framework of mutual integration and cooperation present in a Kabbalistic group.

Our ultimate purpose is to construct a stable and tangible relationship with the source of our lives. This relationship brings with it a myriad of tastes, emotional impressions, and knowledge that reflect our current states, whether they be shame, anger, darkness, concealment, revelation, hatred, rejection, love, or adhesion. The most crucial aspect is to establish and maintain this mutual connection with the Creator.

Initially, the form of connection may seem irrelevant as long as there’s a connection. However, once a connection is established, it becomes crucial to analyze, refine, and enhance this relationship with the Creator. This paradoxical journey begins with a state of complete concealment, where the Creator’s existence remains neither felt nor acknowledged. Yet, from this state of non-existence, we can come to sense His presence through achieving a sense of similarity with Him that we achieve through our mutual connection and mutual love towards each other.

This initial awareness inevitably triggers shame and bitterness as the bar difference between the minimal love I am capable of and the infinite love the Creator projects becomes clear and tangible, prompting subsequent actions aimed at neutralizing this shame.

My relationship with the Creator revolves around an appreciation and gratitude for receiving everything from Him. I am acutely aware of the stark contrast between His infinite love and the love I can manifest. This tangible disparity fuels and sustains my constant prayer to Him, seeking the ability to mirror His love towards Him through the love of others. This journey, filled with emotional depth and spiritual insight, is the path to transcendence and fulfillment in human existence.

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Zsolt Hermann
Zsolt Hermann

Written by Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.

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