True love in the perfect family

Zsolt Hermann
1 min readDec 22, 2020

Question from the Internet:

“What are the basic factors to focus on for developing a good environment at home?”

A good environment is based on positive, mutually responsible, mutually complementing relationships between people.

This is as true to greater society as it is true for a family.

At least in a family we get a kickstart by the natural love, connection that exists between family members. But this natural, instinctive love, connection is not enough.

We have to build “true love" which is based on mutual concessions, considering the desires, needs, viewpoints of the others as important as our own.

Then by fulfilling the desires, needs of the others as if they were our own needs, desires, we can create a constant, positive, mutual flow of care, service and love between the members of the family that glues people truly together above any problems, misunderstandings.

Then with the help of this “mutual guarantee" they can use even the problems, crisis situations as positive fuel to grow, strengthen the connection, life-force of the family even more.

Then when we can stabilize the family — as founding block of society — this way, we can rebuild the wider, greater society based on the same principles.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.