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The True Prayer: A Cry for Selfless Transformation

4 min readJun 9, 2025

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In the depths of our souls, there comes a moment when life as we know it no longer holds meaning. The pursuits that once drove us, the desires that fueled our days, fade into a hollow echo. We stand at a crossroads, yearning for something greater, something beyond the confines of our selfish egos — a spiritual existence that promises connection with the single, benevolent force that enlivens all reality. Yet, this longing feels impossibly out of reach, a distant star we cannot grasp. It is here, in this moment of profound despair, that the true prayer is born.

A true prayer is not a fleeting wish or a plea for personal gain. It is a collective cry, a desperate, life-or-death necessity that surges from the heart of a spiritual community bound by mutual love and responsibility. It is a prayer for something supernatural — an existence so foreign to our egoistic nature that it feels like defying the very laws of our being. We seek to shed the self entirely, to live and act solely for the sake of others, to become vessels for the Creator’s boundless love and bestowal. Only through this selfless devotion can we hope to recognize the divine force that governs reality, by attaining a semblance of its qualities.

This transformation is not something we can achieve alone, nor even through the collective strength of our spiritual group. The ability to exist purely for others, to forget ourselves completely, is incomprehensible within the egoistic framework we were born into. Even the desire for such a state eludes us. Our egos, like loyal companions, have carried us faithfully through life, shaping our every thought and action. But now, they have fulfilled their purpose. The instinctive, animalistic self that once defined us has brought us to this precipice, where nothing in this world can satisfy or fulfill us any longer.

We sense a faint spark of spiritual aspiration, a yearning for a higher existence. But to ignite it, we must surrender everything — every trace of the ego that has defined us. This is no small task. It demands a total capitulation, a willingness to let go of the self we’ve known and to extract the fragile, human spiritual aspiration we’ve begun to refine within our spiritual community. Together, we have polished this aspiration, connecting our individual sparks into a shared flame. Yet, at this critical juncture, we falter. The overwhelming need for total self-surrender remains elusive. We are trapped in a life that has exhausted its purpose, unable to move forward, yet unable to retreat.

The life we once lived — blind, instinctive, and ego-driven — offers no refuge. To abandon our spiritual path would be to forsake our human purpose, to turn away from the connection we crave with the Creator’s singular force. But the breakthrough into spirituality feels impossible. We lack the strength, the desire, the ability to cross this threshold. We are caught in an unbearable limbo, a state of total despair where our own forces fail us, and the weight of this unsolvable dilemma crushes our spirits.

It is from this place of brokenness that the true prayer erupts. It is a raw, visceral cry, born of the realization that we cannot achieve this transformation on our own. We plead for the Creator to grant us the supernatural ability to nullify our selfish egos, to sacrifice every desire and aspiration tied to the self. But there is a sacred twist: this prayer is not for ourselves. In the intimacy of our spiritual friendship, forged through deep connection and mutual responsibility, we find the strength to direct this outpouring of longing toward the success of others. We pray for their breakthrough, their transformation, placing ourselves last.

This selfless act unlocks the divine response. Only when we pray for others, with no thought of personal gain, does the Creator answer. He bestows upon us the strength and the supernatural need to exist above and against our egoistic selves. This new desire, pure and untainted by selfishness, becomes our fuel. It replaces the ego’s fleeting cravings with a profound yearning to serve, to give, to live for the sake of others. With this gift, we begin to exist in a new reality, acting through a divine deficiency that aligns us with the Creator’s purpose.

The true prayer is not a moment but a transformation. It is the cry of a community united in despair, lifted by love, and answered by grace. It is the bridge between our earthly limitations and the boundless spirituality we were created to embody. In this sacred act of praying for others, we find not only the strength to transcend our egos but the joy of becoming partners in the Creator’s divine plan — a plan that breathes life into all existence.

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Zsolt Hermann
Zsolt Hermann

Written by Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.

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