The solution is in the connection

Zsolt Hermann
1 min readAug 31, 2020


Question from the Internet:

“How can someone help someone through a struggle when they are going through the same struggle?”

This is a very important question, and usual logic would dictate that it is impossible.

Still, people who are struggling with the same problem, sinking into the same, seemingly unsolvable problems can help each other solving it if the connect to each other.

The key is our inherently egocentric, subjective consciousness and perception, our tendency to try solving problems individually, mostly at the expense of others.

Most of the time we can’t find solutions for our problems as we can’t see beyond our very narrow, distorted subjective scope, and alone we are unable to rise above our present state and see things in a more advanced, systematic way.

The clearly visible individualistic, nationalistic, self-defeating reactions, “solutions” for the pandemic had portrayed this point very vividly.

But if people connect with each other and know how to create a previously non-existent, composite opinion, by selflessly combining their ideas, viewpoints, they can easily find a common solution that didn’t exist in either of them before they connected.

And since most of our problems are caused by our inherently self-serving, self-justifying, individualistic approach anyway, by building and sustaining the above mentioned connections can prevent any further problems.

And the more people connect in such a way, the positive, constructive ability becomes greater, more effective.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.