The Paradox of Love

The great paradox about love as we understand and use it by default, is that though we think we love others, in truth we love ourselves. We can “love” only to the extent we ourselves receive a pleasant, fulfilling sensation from “loving”.

As a result of our inherently egocentric, “self-loving”, self-justifying, subjective nature we are incapable of “true love”.

“True love” is a state when the “lover” completely disappears in the “beloved”, exist within the desires, needs of the “beloved”, fulfilling them perfectly according to the viewpoint of the “beloved” without any personal, subjective calculations, expectations. A true lover loves the “beloved” even if the “beloved” does not even know the lover exists.

In order to become able to love in such a “supernatural” — above inherent, instinctive nature — way, we need to “borrow”, learn love, the ability for unconditional service of others from Nature’s system, learning how Nature “loves”, creates and sustains life.

Why would we want to do such a thing when it is against our inherent nature?!

Because in the globally integrated, completely interdependent world we evolved into — where we have to become a single, united, Human “superorganism to achieve compatibility with Nature — we can’t solve problems, can’t survive without the perfect, true “Natural love” connecting us, covering all the differences, distrust and animosity which prevents us from accepting, serving each other in the first place.

Then we will reach and understand the greatest paradox of love: “true love” exists only above, against hate.