The method of infinite fulfillment

Zsolt Hermann
4 min readApr 22, 2020

Although our main driver, engine for life is the insatiable desire to find constant, increasing pleasures, happiness for ourselves, our actual default ability to fulfill ourselves is extremely limited.

As soon as we satiated ourselves with food, drinks, sex or any other pleasures, we turn off, switch off and have to wait until our need, hunger is awakened again.

The good old Romans — masters of the constant search for endless, selfish pleasures — tried to forcefully empty their stomach during feasts so they could continue endlessly. We also try to enhance our pleasure reception abilities with all kinds of tricks, using different tactics, substances. But at the end of the day, our body and its receptive vessels can take only so much.

To compound our misery our desires don’t stay idle but they constantly grow. What was sufficient today won’t be sufficient tomorrow, we constantly need stronger, greater, juicier, more moving even shocking fulfillments, while our receptive vessels remain the same. Thus direct, selfish reception does not really work for us.

We already know that we can receive more and seemingly unlimited fulfillment by giving to others. When our children open their presents at different holidays, celebrations, the excitement and unconstraint joy they show gives us much greater pleasure than what they receive. And this pleasure grows the more people we can give to.

When great performance artists give something to their audience, the adulation, respect, celebration they receive is stronger than any drugs, or money, they are completely intoxicated by it.

We have multiple philanthropists, businessmen who pledged most of their fortune towards good causes helping people. The respect they receive, the feeling that they can genuinely help, promote, rescue Humanity gives them much greater pleasure than their billions of dollars.

It used to be the same with previous leaders who were greatly respected, followed, idolized, as they could lead in a positive way, giving their people success, good life, hope, and optimism. Unfortunately in our times this art is lost as leaders lead by scare tactics, scaremongering, oppression.

Although this pleasure from giving is greater, seemingly unlimited by one’s own receptive vessels, it is still connected to the person, bounded by our “this-worldly”, subjective coordinates of time, space and physical motion. Without the received pleasure, respect a sense of contribution, even these great people would not be able to give.

We can develop a completely different kind of receiving pleasures that we have no example yet in our world.

In order to receive pleasures in a truly unlimited way, we, “our observer”, “taster of the pleasures” has to completely disconnect from the inherently self-centered, self-serving and self-justifying, subjective “being” we are born into.

We need to come to a special separation when we first identify the “biological being” in us, that needs the usual necessities for survival through the usual desires of food, sex, family, money, control, and knowledge. This biological being needs its necessities that are neither praised nor are condemned.

And above that biological being we need to take the “Human observer, taster” in us that can give, think about others, give to others, and start to further develop this Human.

If we place this “Human observer, taster” into a unique environment with a special, purposeful method, we can gradually achieve a state where this “Human” becomes so separated from the biological part that it looks at it as “one’s pet” that needs the usual care but not more.

Beyond that one dedicates all of one’s efforts to enter, feel the desires, needs of others in that special, mutually committed environment, until one becomes able to sense reality through those other desires needs while seeing everything through the viewpoints of those others.

When we develop this unique ability to “enter” the others without any remaining selfish, egotistic intentions, calculations, distortions, only, purely, unconditionally acting for their sake — as if a brain/heart surgeon entering the brain/heart of a patient without seemingly touching it, hurting it — we can gently, cautiously act as their “agent”, facilitator, using their desires to obtain fulfillment for their sake.

Our only personal desire is to maintain this neutral, non-interfering state so we could continue acting for the sake of others as if their desires were our desires, wanting their fulfillment according to their viewpoint.

Then the desires and fulfillment we start feeling, tasting are not our own, still, we sense them as if they were our own. Our own pleasure comes from the joy we sense in those others, as their needs are fulfilled like our earlier pleasures with our children receiving presents from us.

But this time the desires, fulfillments have no actual connection to us, they do not corrupt us, they do not satiate us.

The joy of pure giving us unlimited, and it is also above time, space and physical motion. Nothing can subdue it or disturb it, it does not depend on how much money we give, for what purpose we give it, it does not matter how others react as we seemingly do not even exist and we know for certain that the desires we fulfill are perfectly fulfilled since we exist in those desires.

We can enjoy pure, unconditional totally selfless giving without any restrictions. Thus the more we facilitate the fulfillment of those desires we find in others, the hungrier we become to continue. And the more people we connect to ourselves this way the greater the pleasure. And if we do this mutually to each other in those special environments we create an unending flow of such unlimited, selfless, altruistic pleasures multiplying them even further.

Then everything else fades into the background only this perfect, infinite, eternal flow remains and we sense ourselves existing in it.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.