Should we fight for ourselves, or for others in need?

Question from the Internet:

“What is more important, spending all of your time fighting for yourself or most of yourtime fighting for others in actual need?”

It is important to understand that we are all born with an innate need to fight for ourselves only. This is not some kind of a sin, we are not evil.

While in nature, all inanimate, vegetative and animate elements feel instinctively integrated and belonging to the whole system, while they all automatically and unconsciously fulfill their own roles and functions in the system, and in return, receive everything they need to be able to fulfill their roles, human beings are born without that sense of mutual belinging. We all sense ourselves – almost immediately after birth – as standalone, separated and individual beings, that need to compete and fight for their own, personal survival and success.

In addition, we also have a sense of superiority and a need to prove ourselves above others. We constantly measure ourselves in contrast to others and at the end develop a uniquely human joy at succeeding and rising at the expense of others, in contrast to others.

This is how we are programmed by nature, this is the only way we know how to exist. Thus even when we consider “fighting for others in need”, even when we “love” others there is inevitably always an ulterior calculation. We can’t even move a finger without some self-interest, without some hope for reward or respcet as a result of our actions.

There is only one way we can arrive to truly serve and love others, to truly fight and compete for others: when we come to a real and visceral sensation that those “others” are actually not separate entities, but they are all our own, integral parts.

Only when we develop our perception of reality and consciousness to such extent, that we finally sense reality as it is, as a single, totally integrated and interdependent, mutually responsible and mutually complementing living system, permeated by a single, life-creating and life-nurturing force-field and developmental plan, only then will we let go of our original intentions and calculations that were 100% self-serviing, self-justifying and exploitative towards “others”.

When we finally understand and viscerally feel that we are all but single cells of the same, totally interconnected and fully interdependent organism will we commit to exist for the sake of others and the whole system. Only then will the principle of “loving and serving others as ourselves” make sense and can we actually implement it, since we know and feel that those “others are our own integral parts” and that we either exist or perish together.

We can achieve this understanding and visceral, irrevocable feeling in two ways. We can either wait and continue blindly and instinctively, until worsening crisis situations, natural disasters, socioeconomic collapse and wars will show us how much we are parts of a single system. Or, we can use a special, purposeful and practical method, that can help us understand and feel the same, but without waiting for pain and intolerable suffering to forge us together.