Sacrifice for “true love.”

Question from the Internet:

“What is an ideal that is most worth sacrificing for?”

Many people would probably answer that “love” is an ideal worth sacrificing for. This is true.

But what exactly is this “love” we could sacrifice ourselves for? What exactly do we need to sacrifice? And what do we gain by sacrificing for love?

We frequently talk about, sing about even cry about love in this world. Is this a love worth sacrificing for? There are examples of people sacrificing a lot for the love of money, the love of their job, or the love of another person. Some even sacrifice their physical life for this love.

But when we examine this love we usually pursue and sacrifice time, effort, money, or even our physical being for, we will find it is not “true love” — as true love is defined by unique, empirical scientists who have been studying human nature for millennia.

When we talk about “love” in this world, as long as we live according to our inherently egocentric, subjective, and individualistic nature, this love is just an extension of our instinctive “self-love.”

In truth, when we “love” something or someone through our inherent nature, it is like the “love of fish,” meaning that I love fish because it tastes good. This means that I “love” something or someone because this ‘love” gives me a good feeling; it gives me satisfaction or some kind of a reward. If I did not receive something in return for my “love,” I would simply not be able to “love,” since we are programmed in such a way that we cannot do anything without some egocentric, subjective and individualistic fuel giving us forces to act.

And we sacrifice ourselves or anything in our possession for this “love” because in our 100% egocentric and subjective calculations, the reward we receive through this “love” is greater than what we sacrifice for it. We cannot work and act in any other way according to our inherent “operating software.”

“True love” is completely different. “True love” is a totally selfless and unconditional service and care for another, when the “lover” dissolves into the desires and viewpoints of the “beloved,” when the “lover” exists only in order to fulfill the desires and needs of the “beloved” according to the viewpoint of the “beloved,” without any subjective or egotistic bias from the “lover’s” part.

For this “true love,” the “lover” needs to sacrifice all of one’s own desires, calculations, and viewpoint so one can become the “perfect lover” that acts without any expected reward or even feedback from the part of the “beloved.”

On the other hand, we simply cannot act without any reward; it is simply impossible to act without any fuel that is arising from some expected goal or fulfillment at the end of any action.

So what reward or fulfillment can we hope for, what fuel can drive us to become totally selfless and unconditional lovers and servants of others while we do not expect anything from them in return?!

The above-mentioned unique scientists explain that through learning and practicing “true love” towards others — while they also try learning and practicing it towards us in a unique, mutually supportive, and mutually complementing environment — we can become “truly Human” beings. Through such mutual actions — when each dissolves into the others and commits to existing only for the sake of others — we can build a single, mutually integrated, and mutually complementing living organism.

In that organism, we all become like healthy cells that exist only for the sake of the well-being of the whole organism. And then, this single, mutually integrated, and mutually complementing living organism becomes “the truly Human being.”

This “single Human organism” — where we are all contributing healthy cells — acquires a unique and unprecedented “collective Human consciousness” and a composite or ‘holographic” perception of reality.

Through this collective consciousness and composite perception of reality, we all gain a completely different and qualitatively much higher sense of existence, where we feel ourselves beyond the egocentric and subjective limitations of time or space, even liberated from the shackles of physical life or death — while still existing in our present bodies in this world.

This is the true, realistic, and tangible sense of existence “true love” can bring us. And for this reward, it is worth sacrificing everything else.