Rising above instinctive aggression

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readMay 31, 2022

Question from the Internet:

“Why has so much aggressiveness become part of our daily lives?”

While most of us are honestly unaware of this, by default we are all “aggressive”. We all sense ourselves as “standalone” beings in a hostile world, where we have to secure our success and survival through ruthless competition, mostly succeeding at the expense of others.

Even if we are unaware of this, when we examine how we play as children, what kinds of games we create and play, how we support our favourite sports team, how we engage in political or other social debates, and how we fare in the work environment, how happy and justified we feel when we overcome others, how much rumours, the criticism of others, making “friendships” to counter others is part of our everyday life and all our conversations, then we will see it is true.

This is the result of human beings being born with an instinctive sense of belonging to each other, without feeling the inherent “mutual guarantee” — being part of Nature’s all-encompassing, totally and mutually integrated system where each element instinctively plays its own role for the benefit and wellbeing of the whole system, helping to sustain the general balance and homeostasis life depends on — that exists in Nature.

This is why we are constantly in mutual distrust and dispute, this is why it is so easy to incite people to protest, riot and wage war against others.

The solution is a unique, purposeful and practical process, when we can consciously and proactively come to sense the same “mutual guarantee” — being part of the same, mutually responsible and mutually complementing network — that instinctively exists in Nature. With the help of this special method, we can come to tangibly and “viscerally” feel our total interdependence Nature’s laws obligate and we can come to a state when we will be ready to let go of our guards, all the instinctive criticism and rejection of others as if reinserting ourselves into the “mother’s womb” through the newly built mutual connections between us.

And as we do so we also become similar to Nature’s integral system and through that similarity, we also start to feel how Nature supports, and guarantees that security we have found in the purposefully and consciously built mutual integration — even if our inherent individual ego continues to resist and protest.

Thus above and against our instinctive aggression and distrust towards others we gain an unprecedented sense of unity and bonding which is supported by and held together by Nature’s integral forces and laws.

It is specifically this resistance of the inherent ego, the contrast we gain between our original worldview and perception and the new, collective worldview and “composite” perception that we can verify our new consciousness and perception of reality. That helps us become Nature’s only fully conscious, integrated and still independent observers and partners.

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Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.