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Love Your Friend as Yourself: A Path to Divine Equivalence

4 min readMay 11, 2025

The Torah’s most profound commandment, “Love your friend as yourself,” serves as the cornerstone of spiritual fulfillment. This singular teaching encapsulates the essence of the Torah, guiding us toward a transformative journey. Only through selfless love for others can we attain the love of the Creator, achieving equivalence with His divine qualities.

Recognizing Our Inherent Nature

At the core of this commandment lies a critical self-awareness. Each desire that arises within us — whether for connection, achievement, or sustenance — is instinctively driven by a selfish, egoistic intention. We naturally seek to exploit others for our own gain, using relationships as a means to fulfill personal needs. The Torah’s method begins with recognizing this “inherent evil” — not as a condemnation, but as a starting point for transformation.

By acknowledging our egoistic tendencies, we open the door to a unique force of light, accessible through the Torah’s teachings. This divine force empowers us to redirect our desires, shifting their intention from self-serving to selfless. Instead of using our desires to exploit, we learn to harness them to love and serve others unconditionally, aligning with the commandment to love others as — or even more than — ourselves.

The Path to Divine Equivalence

This transformation is not merely a moral exercise; it is the pathway to equivalence with the Creator. By cultivating selfless intentions, we begin to mirror the Creator’s qualities of pure love and bestowal. As we grow in this equivalence, we forge a direct, reciprocal connection with the divine force, building a partnership rooted in shared purpose.

Yet, this process demands conscious effort. The corrections we seek originate from the Creator, but we must actively yearn for them. Our desire to love others and connect with the Creator must become the singular focus of our lives — authentic, scrutinized, and unwavering. Only when this aspiration dominates our hearts, surpassing even the most basic physical necessities, do we receive the divine assistance needed to transform.

Balancing the Physical and Spiritual

The Torah does not condemn the basic needs required to sustain our physical existence — food, shelter, family, and work. However, it reframes their purpose. These necessities are neither praised nor vilified; they are simply tools to maintain our presence in this world, enabling us to pursue our spiritual goal. We engage with them reluctantly, understanding that without a stable foundation, we cannot fully dedicate ourselves to the pursuit of divine equivalence.

In this delicate balance, we strive to minimize distractions, focusing our energy on the spiritual work of loving others and aligning with the Creator. Every action, no matter how mundane, becomes an opportunity to practice selfless intention, ensuring that our ultimate purpose remains paramount.

The Power of Collective Aspiration

This journey is not one we undertake alone. The Torah emphasizes the importance of a supportive community of like-minded individuals, united in their commitment to “love your friend as yourself.” In this sacred environment, we create a mutual guarantee — a collective dedication to help one another transcend the ego and draw closer to the Creator.

Together, we amplify the importance of our shared goal, reinforcing our resolve to live selflessly. This community becomes a shield against the ego’s temptations, which constantly seek to pull us back into self-centeredness. By holding onto one another, we cultivate an atmosphere of unwavering focus, enabling each member to withstand the challenges of this “supernatural” transformation.

From Actions to Intentions

As we progress, we come to understand that true change occurs not in our actions or desires, but in our intentions. Our inherent desire for fulfillment is unchangeable — it is the raw material of our existence. The Torah teaches us to temporarily restrict these desires, not to suppress them, but to examine and redirect their purpose. By replacing egoistic intentions with altruistic ones, we align our desires with the Creator’s qualities of love and bestowal.

This shift in intention becomes the cornerstone of our existence. Desires and actions, once central, fade into the background, serving only as vessels for our godly intentions. Over time, we cease to feel the weight of our physical existence, focusing solely on the selfless love that connects us to the Creator. In this state, even as desires grow stronger, we direct them with unwavering intention, living only for the sake of others and the Creator.

Embracing a New Existence

This transformation is nothing short of revolutionary. To our egoistic nature, living selflessly feels like death — a complete negation of the self-centered instincts that once defined us. Yet, paradoxically, clinging to our egoistic tendencies becomes unbearable, as we recognize that true life flows only through equivalence with the Creator.

In the right environment, guided by the Torah’s method, we harness the divine forces that facilitate this internal upgrade. Surrounded by those who share our aspiration, we break free from the ego’s grip, living for others without calculation or self-interest. This collective effort liberates us, enabling a profound shift from one extreme — selfish existence — to another: a life of pure, unconditional love.

Attaining the Creator

The ultimate goal of this journey is to fully attain and partner with the Creator. This is achieved when we can unequivocally verify that the Creator, characterized by selfless love and bestowal, is the singular benevolent force in reality. We reach this realization not through intellectual understanding, but through lived experience. By embodying these godly qualities ourselves, we tangibly sense that goodness — creation and nurturing of life — flows only through selfless love.

Through the practice of “love your friend as yourself,” guided by the Torah’s timeless wisdom, we fulfill our human purpose. We achieve equivalence with the Creator, entering a reciprocal, benevolent partnership that transcends time and limitation. In this state, we exist in perfect freedom, united with the source of all life, forever bound by love.

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Zsolt Hermann
Zsolt Hermann

Written by Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.

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