Love and Freedom

An opinion from the Internet about love and freedom:

“Your point about ego and the role that it plays in freedom is quite interesting. When someone chooses freedom, they essentially choose selfishness, and the ego plays a role in that. I’m just lost between the fact that when you choose love, you make some sacrifices, which essentially reduces your personal freedom, and I’ve come to the conclusion that love and freedom simply cannot coexist in equilibrium, based on my definition of freedom.”

I agree with you, as long as we consider freedom the freedom of the individual — the way we are educated, the way we instinctively feel about ourselves — love is the opposite of freedom, as through love we become attached to another, obligated towards another, especially when we consider “true love” which is a totally selfless, unconditional service of another, according to how the other wants it.

On the other hand, true love liberates us from the inherent “slavery” to our egocentric, individualistic “self”, from the constant self-service and self-justification, from constantly thinking about ourselves, about our own state and by that being locked into this very limited and distorted subjective and egocentric prison we live in.

So in fact, true love gives us true freedom.

Through true love, especially when we start connecting to more and more people through “true love” according to the principle of “loving others as ourselves” we enter a completely different “space” of existence, a completely different dimension that is totally unlimited — while life through selfish reception is full of restrictions and obstacles, life through altruistic giving has no restrictions and all obstacles fall away — and it is also unbounded by the usual egocentric and subjective limitations of time, space and motion.

Of course, for it to truly work, we need to practice and implement this kind of love and freedom in smaller, closed, mutually committed and mutually complementing environments first, and only later can we expand outwards.

Try to “defocus” from the definition of “freedom” we constantly use and keep repeating. Try to sense, search for a different kind of freedom, for the real freedom!