It is not easy to recognize, accept who we are!
Question from the Internet:
“Why do people think other people have a large ego when they don’t? Why are there sometimes odd, or "reverse interpretations" of a person’s behavior and what they’re going through?”
It is a complex question and the answer is very difficult to accept.
By default we are all born with an inherently egocentric, subjective, self-serving and self-justifying nature. This is neither evil nor sinful, we received such a “program” from Nature’s evolution for a purpose.
This “unnatural”, uniquely Human egotistic trait gives us independence, free choice in Nature’s otherwise selfless, altruistic system. Without this “outsider” status, opposition we wouldn’t be able to consciously develop, acquire our unique, evolutionary Human purpose.
But since we are egotistic and subjective, and we constantly try to raise ourselves over others, we judge everybody else negatively, while we simply can’t notice, recognize our own true nature, intentions, drivers as our ego blurs and justifies whatever we do in any given circumstances.
This is why most people are honestly convinced that they are not egotistic, that they can truly, selflessly help, care for others without any selfish intentions.
We need either extremely sharp, dramatic conditions or a unique, purposeful and practical method to research and recognize who we are.
And only when we recognize who we are - despite it being an unpleasant recognition - then we can start purposefully and methodically develop, acquire truly selfless, altruistic qualities with the help of the same method.