How to recognize the need to change ourselves?!

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readDec 26, 2021

--

Question from the Internet:

“Why is it that everyone thinks of changing the world but no one thinks of changing himself?”

Because — driven by our inherently self-justifying, subjective, proudly and fiercely individualistic nature, self-change is the most unacceptable thing to our ego, to our self-esteem.

We can see how people in any given circumstances fully justify their behavior. We all can look at a brutally honest mirror — and even for that, we need special conditions and a purposeful method — to see that all our thoughts, actions are only about ourselves, about self-benefit.

But normally, all of us honestly think that we are basically good people, we can love and serve others unconditionally, we give to others freely, we can empathize with others, and so on. When we see ego, selfishness destroying, we only see it in others but not in ourselves.

This is how we are all built, we are completely blindfolded towards our own, true actions. Our ego is like a snake, controlling, poisoning us while remains in hiding. We need a unique, purposeful, and practical method in special, closed, mutually supportive, and mutually complementing environments so we could draw the ego out into the open — our own ego — in order to start correcting it, harnessing its power.

Our selfish ego is like a hidden chronic disease consuming us from within and also consuming, destroying everything around us. Without the unique method, without humbly, honestly recognizing the actual desires and intentions driving us we will never know what and how to correct, change in ourselves and we will continue in a stubborn, futile manner correcting, changing others, manipulating the world around us as we have been doing forever.

The world will not change and we will continue sleepwalking towards a devastating global meltdown unless at least a small, critical minority accepts that we need to change only ourselves and start using the purposeful,l practical, empirical scientific method developed for this purpose. Then such sensitive, willing pioneers will be able to pull the rest of humanity behind them through their positive example — while the world will soften as a result of deepening crisis, growing, and finally intolerable suffering.

--

--

Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.