How do we relate to each other — how could we relate to each other?!

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readJan 23, 2022


Question from the Internet:

“What problem have you created in human beings? How has that problem changed life?”

I do not think I have created problems in human beings, I do not have the power to create.

But we are all born with a “problem”, which is our inherently self-serving, self-justifying, egocentric, and individualistic nature.

We all — knowingly, unknowingly — make all our calculations solely for our own sake, and most of the time we succeed at the expense of others.

As a result, we do “create” problems in each other, for each other, even if we do not know it and we can’t avoid it, since we are programmed this way.

On the other hand, we have the ability to recognize, accept that with our inherent nature, while acting instinctively, we inevitably cause harm to others even if we have the “best intentions” to begin with.

If we reached such an honest self-criticism — and we do not need to regret anything, we do not need to consume ourselves since we did not create our own original software — then we can set out to try to change, fine-tune, upgrade ourselves so at least not to cause harm to each other — as a first step — and then later even learn how we can actively cause good to others, using everything we have for the sake of others.

it is this conscious self-transformation that will make us “truly Human”, a being that can exist, operate above instinctive desires, behavior, learning from Nature how we need to relate to each other and everything around us with “Nature-like”, mutually responsible and mutually completing mindset, attitude.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.