How can we truly help, care for others?!
Question from the Internet:
“Do development goals make aid more effective or less?”
The question is, whose development goals are we talking about?
As long as we approach things, problems according to our own, inherently, inevitably subjective, egocentric, self-serving and self-justifying plans, calculations, nothing is going to be truly helpful and effective.
This is what we can observe all over the world. Powerful nations want to reform, “help”, “sponsor” others according to how they want to do it, in order to serve their best interest. Even parents shower their children with “love” according to how they define that “love” with strings attached, expecting their children to behave and develop how they envision it, how they think it is good for them — although it might not fit their children at all.
We cannot do, develop anything effectively, positively as long as we remain stuck in our inherently limited and distorted sensation, calculation organizing everything egotistically, subjectively, always for our own sake.
If we truly want to help, care for, develop others, we would need to, first of all, restrict, discard our inherent viewpoint, calculations, opinions. We need to exit and distance from our own boundaries and sense, perceive reality selflessly, objectively, transparently through the desires, needs and viewpoints of others. Then we will be able to help effectively, positively, causing true progress and improvement.
This is not as difficult, impossible as it sounds at first. With the help of a unique, purposeful and practical educational method we can learn and actually, “viscerally” feel how much, inevitably integrated and interdependent we are. The others I usually observe, judge negatively, suspiciously are actually the other cells, elements of the same living organism I am also an integral part of. It turns out that when I help others, serve others, I actually help, serve “myself”, my complete self.
This is how the ancient, softly misunderstood principle of “love others as yourself” finally makes perfect sense!