How can we spread “kindness” in the world?
Question from the Internet:
“How can we spread the idea of kindness between other people by having kind conversations?”
We can’t really spread the idea of kindness through simply having “kind conversations” for many reasons.
Spreading an idea itself makes no changes. Making speeches or having conversations and debates make no true changes.
Most importantly, what we say and even what we do is superficial and does not actually acts. What acts is our intention behind our words and actions.
And by default, none of us have “kind” intentions towards others. By default, we are all born with 100% self-serving, egocentric and exploitative intentions — regardless of whether we are aware of them or not.
We simply cannot think of the goodness or benefit of others before our own benefit. We always have to make sure we ourselves have everything we need and want, and then we turn to others. But even then, when we “give” or show “kindness,” we do so only for some benefit, reward, or appreciation.
We cannot spread kindness, and we cannot change the world before we become aware of our own inherent nature and the true desires and intentions that drive us. Only when we have recognized and accepted that our inherent desires are controlled by selfish, egocentric, and exploitative intentions, and we also develop a true need to correct ourselves so we can change the world around us through our own correction that is when things will start to change.
Of course, it cannot happen if one person, or some isolated people, start doing so. Moreover, such change cannot happen individually; after all, towards whom can I start practicing my new, truly loving, and serving intentions? only towards other people.
Thus we need to build small, closed, and purposefully conducted environments where like-minded and mutually committed people can start learning and practicing how to do everything only for the sake of others above and against instinctive self-benefit. And when a few people do this day-by-day, with full commitment and devotion according to a specific method that was developed for this purpose, they can start existing and acting above and outside of self-benefit only for the sake of others.
And when such a small group starts acting this way, and other such small groups form and grow, they will cause a positive example ripple effect even without talking to others. And then this positive ripple effect people in the suffering and collapsing general society will sense as “fresh air” or “soothing water” will start attracting and changing others.
This is how we can “spread kindness” in practice.