How can we revive the “classical family” in order to save human society?

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readNov 27, 2021


Question from the Internet:

“What is the greatest issue facing the family in today’s society?”

As with everything else in relation to humanity that family also suffers from our inherently self-serving, self-justifying, egotistic “me, me, me” nature. The classical family is basically all but dead as we reached the final limit of selfish, egocentric, and subjective human development.

In contrast to couples 2–3 generations ago who lived together for decades, dying almost simultaneously — the spouse surviving the other dying within 1–2 years due to the loss of the lifelong partner — today young people can’t even imagine tying the knot even temporarily, and most also do not want the burden of having children on their own.

This is nobody’s fault, these young people are not evil, this is where our selfish, individualistic ego brought us: to the brink of self-destruction.

With the loss of the family — the most fundamental building block of society — human society is also crumbling, as we have no idea how to build positive, mutually responsible, mutually complementing, “familial” connections, cooperation any longer.

And while this is most obvious in Western societies, the rest of the world, regardless of culture, religion, the political or economic system follows suit as we all have the same inherent nature.

In order for humanity to survive, we have to revive the classical family model — adapted to the globally integrated and interdependent conditions we live in. This time it will not be a simple, instinctive connection, collaboration inherited from the animal world. This time we have to rebuild our connections consciously, proactively, methodically above and against our inherent nature, despite the ego rejecting us from each other.

And this will make the “new family” much stronger, aware, successful for its purpose of creating and sustaining human society against the erosive forces, attempts of the ego.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.