How can we have a “good life?”
Question from the Internet:
“Love others, act with integrity, forgive, show gratitude, and help those in need.” How can I live well and bring goodness and peace?
My answer:
Basically, in order to “live well and bring goodness and peace,” we have to live according to your first sentence.
The problem is that we all misunderstand what “love, integrity, forgiveness, gratitude and help of others” mean. We distorted those concepts according to our inherently egocentric, self-serving, self-justifying, subjective and exploitative nature, where everything is only about ourselves.
If we want to get closer to the truth and know how to live properly, we need to understand what it truly means that we evolved in to a single, globally integrated and interdependent world.
In this world, we all have to become like healthy cells that exist for and serve others and the whole system. This is in order to secure the most optimal life-flow and homeostasis of the whole system, so life and positive development can continue, which, of course, benefits us as well.
If we are all single cells of this single organism, we cannot have a good life if other parts of the system are suffering and do not get the “life-flow.”
In our physical bodies, when one organ is sick, the whole body suffers, and as a result, all other organs and elements in the body function in order to facilitate the healing of the sick part until the general balance and homeostasis is restored.
”Loving others” means sensing ans fulfilling the necessities of others exactly how they need it. This is becoming a healthy, mutually contributing element in the system.
”Acting with integrity” means learning and perfectly fulfilling our integral part in the system, serving the system with our maximum ability while receiving exactly what we need to fulfill our integral role.
”Forgiving” means giving up our subjective and self-justifying view of reality, where, by default, we always see others wrong and ourselves right. Instead, we have to adopt the general and collective viewpoint of the whole, always acting only for the sake of the whole above and against individual calculations and justification.
”Showing gratitude” means feeling “blessed” for sensing existence and having the opportunity to be an active element in a life-creating and life-nurturing system, where we can all feel and enjoy an unprecedented collective sense of existence on a qualitatively much higher level than our original subjective and individualistic sense of existence.
”Helping those in need” means acting as a loving, unconditionally serving and transparent channel towards everybody else in the system while completely forgetting about oour own existence. This way, our sense of existence will be only through the intentions and acts of love and bestowal we feel towards everything and everybody else outside of ourselves, through which feeling we become similar to and adhered to the single, absolute developmental force of reality that creates and nurtures life.
This is an “eternal sensation” that is beyond the sensation of physical life or death, since through bthis feeling, we are detached from sensing life in our present form, even if still exist in the realm of the physical world like today. But this new, “eternal sense of existence” overpowers and overrides our sense of physical life, making it obsolete.