How can we escape the bubbles we are born into?

Question from the Internet:

Why do some people act as if they live in a bubble? As if there’s something wrong with caring when something bad happens in another country? As if their and others’ actions don’t affect them and the world around them as a whole?

We are all born into a bubble. We are all born with an inherently self-serving, self-justifying, egocentric and subjective nature and viewpoint. We see, and experience from the world only what interests us, whatever brings us more rewards or pleasure and whatever distances us from pain and suffering.

When we “help and support” others, we do so out of selfish and egocentric calculations or out of our own similar experiences, feeling ourselves in the shoes of those others we support against our common enemies.

While many people honestly believe that they are capable of selfless sympathy and can unconditionally support and even love others, such abilities are simply not programmed in us. We are programmed only to look after and care for ourselves and the “loved ones” we identify as our “inner circle”. If we do something for others externally, that is based on very precise, self-serving and self-justifying calculations. We cannot even move a finger unless there is something in it for us.

Today, as we evolve into a globally integrated and interdependent world — as a result of pressure from Nature’s finely balanced and mutually integrated system and the strict laws that govern that integration — we will need to learn how to break out of these instinctive, individualistic and introverted personal bubbles towards each other.

We need to learn how to build “Nature-like” mutual integration based on positive and constructive, mutually responsible and mutually complementing cooperation — above and against everything that seemingly rejects and separates individuals and nations from each other.

We will have to interconnect and cooperate above the bubbles and all the instinctive resistance, not to mention the vast diversity and differences of opinions that will remain and even grow.

It is this unique human integration above and against our instinctive nature that will make us “truly Human”: beings that consciously and willingly achieve Nature-like integration desire their original nature and inclinations.



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Zsolt Hermann

Zsolt Hermann


I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.