How can we all find happiness?

Zsolt Hermann
2 min readNov 7, 2021

Question from the Internet:

“The world seems more unhappy than ever in history. Is that because we are all actually more unhappy or because we share more emotions with each other and on social media?”

What is happiness?

Happiness is a state when we are in balance, when our basic necessities, “dreams”, aspirations are fulfilled when we reach a certain state of “homeostasis”.

Our generation is probably the unhappiest generation in history, especially the younger generation. Even at times of war, like during and after the Second World War people had hope for a better future, they felt they “defeated a great evil” and they have found unity in the general rebuilding that followed.

Today we do not have any aspirations, we are not looking forward to the future. The pandemic showed us how shallow and temporary our so-called happiness is when it is based on aimless consumerism when we define our purpose in purchasing the next gadgets, a holiday when we prepare for the next “big and historic” sporting event or political election.

The pandemic acted like the little boy calling out the naked emperor, we have realized how naked, aimless, useless we are and we are all living a life without any purpose, any future.

If this general emptiness, sense of loss continues, it will drive people to do violent, illogical, irreversible things since when people feel they have nothing to lose they go crazy.

We have to give ourselves a true purpose to live for, we have to rebuild the picture of the future with truly humane aspirations, plans, and goals.

We are standing at a very unique crossroads of human evolution, when we are forced to shift from the previous, present, blindly, instinctively self-serving, egocentric, subjective, and individualistic development to a selfless, collective, mutually supportive, and mutually complementing development.

Then we will find the true happiness is not something individual, self-fulfilling, but is something we find only within the unique mutually integrated human network we will need to build. We cannot find balance, homeostasis without such actively, consciously built human interconnections.



Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.