Falling in love with Love

Zsolt Hermann
5 min readNov 1, 2024

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We often perceive our existence within a random natural universe. While we have some theories about how this universe came to be, we lack definitive knowledge of any underlying purpose or deterministic process guiding it. This perspective mirrors how we approach our own lives; we typically navigate day-to-day without clear plans for the future. Regardless of our intentions, we remain uncertain about what obstacles await us, often finding ourselves caught in one crisis after another until we reach the end of our lives.

Empirical scientists who have studied reality and human nature over millennia assert that our existence is actually deterministic and purposeful, with a clear origin and a specific ultimate goal that must be reached. They emphasize that humanity plays a crucial role in this process, suggesting that we have the potential to achieve a higher state of existence.

According to these scientists, reality is a single, interconnected living system governed by a force characterized by absolute love and bestowal. This form of love transcends our conventional understanding; it represents a natural love in which every element of the system acts selflessly and altruistically, focused solely on the well-being of the entire system, thereby maintaining balance and homeostasis.

True love, in this context, involves completely selflessly recognizing the desires and needs of others and making every possible effort to fulfill those needs without bias. This fulfillment occurs from the perspective of the beloved, where the lover relinquishes their individual viewpoint to address the desires of the beloved exactly as they wish.

We do not experience this kind of love because we are born with fundamentally opposite qualities. Unlike other elements in nature, humans do not instinctively feel connected or responsible for the larger system. Our perception is largely self-centered; we only recognize that which serves our personal pleasure while avoiding pain.

Consequently, we exist as independent entities, often consuming and exploiting resources to the point where we, like cancer cells, threaten not only our own survival but also that of the planet. As a result, humanity stands on the brink of self-destruction.

According to the scientists mentioned, this destructive tendency serves a purpose. By creating beings that contrast sharply with the system’s qualities of love and bestowal, we are given the opportunity to consciously learn the true essence of love and integration. Through this contrast, we can evolve to fulfill our high predetermined role within the system and serve as a collective conscious mind.

To achieve this, we must learn to love and act for the sake of others, thereby overcoming our inherent egotistic nature. This transformation requires us first to establish unique environments with like-minded individuals who share the goal of transcending selfishness in order to cultivate true love and bestowal.

Individual efforts alone are insufficient, as we lack the opportunity to practice unconditional love in a self-serving society. Even within our families, our expressions of love often stem from selfish motivations. In these unique environments, we must cultivate a different kind of love — one that is free of any internal or external agendas.

To liberate ourselves from our ego-centric existence, we must harness a special method that facilitates this transformation. This revolution involves combating our self-serving instincts, pushing us to reach a breaking point where we desire to liberate ourselves completely. We have to keep practicing unconditional love and bestowal with other like-minded people with whom we do not have any familial, hormonal relations, or other selfish common motivations until we realize that reaching such true love and bestowal towards others is beyond our abilities.

We can’t reach this true love even with each other’s help, but we can generate an all-encompassing and intolerable and irrepressible desire and need for that true love.

At this critical junction, we realize that the burdens of our egotistic nature render life unworthy of living. We must reach a point where we are prepared to abandon everything in our quest to escape our selfish viewpoint, allowing us to learn to love others and the interconnected reality around us.

Then, unique developing forces from natural reality perform this unique self-liberation since there is nothing else we ask or want from life.

Once liberated from our ego, we enter a state of unprecedented freedom, akin to a vacuum untouched by our self-interest. In this space, we experience a remarkable sense of openness, although we may not yet be able to act or love. It feels as if the universe has unlatched its boundaries; even the restrictive, instinctively egocentric, and subjective coordinates of time, space, and physical motion disappear.

This state can be described as existing “between heaven and earth.” Here, we begin to discern the harmful nature of our egotism, which can lead to a positive fear — a recognition that elevates us from our original nature. We fear our original nature fully and clearly, seeing and understanding the harm it can cause.

We no longer wish to return to our destructive tendencies, feeling an innate drive for a higher purpose.

As we embrace this readiness for change, we receive motivation from the integrated, loving system of reality. We come to understand that this newfound freedom is not the endpoint; rather — feeling a certain push and invitation from reality’s living system — we aspire to learn how to truly love and become active partners in this system.

From this liberated state, we must gradually learn to utilize all of our desires for the benefit of others, serving as conduits for life energy within the system. By acting as channels for the flow of love and resources, we can begin to feel the system’s love streaming through us. Again, everything operates according to our similarity to the system. We perceive the system as we are, according to our actual abilities to love and bestow above and against our original nature.

This conditional love relies on our ability to maintain the intention of serving others. We still can’t sustain this intention and ability all the time, thus this sense of love is still conditioned on our temporary and constantly renewed ability to selflessly love and serve others.

As we become more adept at this selfless act, we delve deeper into the interconnected reality and begin to perceive its original source.

When — based on our improved and expanded ability to project selfless and unconditional love towards others — we align ourselves with the system’s force, we discover an unconditional love that transcends our previous existence. We fall in love not merely with the concepts and the sensations of love and bestowal but we also fall in lovewith the life-giving, nurturing essence of the system itself.

Ultimately, while we started from a place of selfishness, we reached the ability of absolute, selfless, and unconditional love and bestowal towards others. We still feel the helpful contrast of our original nature in comparison to our newly acquired loving and bestowing abilities, and, as a result, we can retain our independent observer ability while becoming part of this loving reality. Our journey is not about losing ourselves completely into our omnipotent, loving source like a candle lost in the light of the Sun but learning to integrate our newfound love while continuing to observe and explore what it means to be part of this life-affirming system.

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Zsolt Hermann
Zsolt Hermann

Written by Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.

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