Do we have to conform to society?

Question from the Internet:

“Who agrees that we all need to conform in society in one way or another because it’s normal, and the phrase why fit in when you were born to stand out is overrated in a way because we all need to conform in order to be social?”

This is a very important question, especially for our times.

As more and more people understand and realize, we have evolved into a globally integrated and interdependent world. Whatever we do or even think immediately and irrevocably influences everybody else, even at great distances all across the planet.

Thus our usual aspiration to “stand out”, to “follow our dreams”, to calculate, decide and do whatever we want cannot work in such an integral system. And this is not because then it is not “moral” or “social”.

Regardless of what we think, what we study or believe in, human society needs to follow the laws and principles of integrated natural systems, since by breaking the laws of mutual integration, by trying to live in excess of our actual necessities and the available resources we cause irreversible harm to everybody, including ourselves.

As we can see today, we are on the brink of self-destruction on a global scale. We either kill and destroy one another through wars and the developing socio-economic collapse, or we destroy ourselves “indirectly” since we can’t comprehend, let alone solve, our global problems as long as we make all the calculations only for our own benefit while succeeding at the expense of others.

But this does not mean “conformity”. Conformity usually means giving up our individuality, our unique abilities and talents in order to “disappear” into society’s grey mass. Such a “conformed” and homogenized human society would not grow or develop.

Instead, we all need to learn how to build a “Nature-like”, mutually integrated and global human society, where each and every individual and nation finds their unique, irreplaceable and crucially important role in mutually supporting the whole collective and mutually complementing each other.

In such a society, everybody can stand out with their own unique mutual contribution, and each would justly and proportionately receive everything they need and deserve in order to continue the same mutual support and contribution to others.



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Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.