Developing towards Human purpose through “true love”

Driven by instinctive desires

By default we are all driven by the so called “animate” and “social” needs, desires of food, sex, family, wealth, power, fame and knowledge. And as a result of our inherently egocentric, individualistic and subjective nature we try fulfilling those desires, needs in a completely self-serving, self-justifying manner.

The Human level starts with searching for meaning, purpose

The budding seed for the “truly Human being” starts with a new need, desire towards the overall meaning, purpose of life. This need, desire awaken in most people time after time, but mostly we push it under the other desires, aimlessly continuing with the rat-race, instinctive day to day survival.

Learning how to truly love others
The only way to escape our original egocentric, subjective bubbles is acquiring a new, selfless, objective perception through the desires, thoughts and viewpoints of other people in specifically organized, methodical, purposeful environments.

In such environments we need to gradually learn to do whatever we do for the sake of others instead of doing everything automatically for ourselves as we are programmed initially. Thus we need to change how we look at life, rising from the level of actions to the level of intentions.

Living through “true love”

But at the end of the day the true breakthrough, acquiring truly selfless, altruistic, unconditionally serving qualities is possible only by obtaining “true love”. “True love” is a state when we receive, feel such an overwhelming attraction, inspiration towards those others that we simply can’t think about ourselves any longer.



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Zsolt Hermann

Zsolt Hermann

I am a Hungarian-born Orthopedic surgeon presently living in New Zealand, with a profound interest in how mutually integrated living systems work.