Developing towards Human purpose through “true love”
Question from the Internet:
“People will do anything in order to (try to) satisfy their needs. Possible human needs include: give and receive love, to be important/valued, and to survive. What are other needs that we have as people, and are any of these three false needs?”
Driven by instinctive desires
By default we are all driven by the so called “animate” and “social” needs, desires of food, sex, family, wealth, power, fame and knowledge. And as a result of our inherently egocentric, individualistic and subjective nature we try fulfilling those desires, needs in a completely self-serving, self-justifying manner.
As you suggested we also have a desire to give and receive love, but by default that desire is also “tuned” completely selfishly. We give and receive love as long as it fulfills us, gives us a good feeling, our in the case of motherly love we are instinctively programmed to love of own offsprings.
With the above mentioned needs, desires and their blind, instinctive fulfillment we are hardly above the animate level in Nature, our desires might be slightly different, expressed in a more sophisticated way. But as we instinctively chase and fulfill them, without even examining our intentions, without considering an overall purpose, goal for all we can’t consider ourselves on the Human level of evolution yet.
The Human level starts with searching for meaning, purpose
The budding seed for the “truly Human being” starts with a new need, desire towards the overall meaning, purpose of life. This need, desire awaken in most people time after time, but mostly we push it under the other desires, aimlessly continuing with the rat-race, instinctive day to day survival.
But there is a point - usually following some life-changing, unpleasant experience, or during “midlife crisis” - when this question about meaning, purpose awakens with such a force that we can’t ignore, suppress it any longer but we need to search for an answer.
And to reach our unique Human purpose that is predetermined by Nature’s evolution, first we need to acquire a new consciousness, perception of reality that lifts us above the original egocentric, subjective perception that cuts us off Nature’s fully integrated system.
Learning how to truly love others
The only way to escape our original egocentric, subjective bubbles is acquiring a new, selfless, objective perception through the desires, thoughts and viewpoints of other people in specifically organized, methodical, purposeful environments.
In such environments we need to gradually learn to do whatever we do for the sake of others instead of doing everything automatically for ourselves as we are programmed initially. Thus we need to change how we look at life, rising from the level of actions to the level of intentions.
We can’t change our actions that are always fulfilling desires - since our “matter”, driving force is always the constantly appearing, intensifying needs, desires we try to find fulfillment for. But we can start selecting which desires to work with and with what intentions were want to fulfill them.
In the above mentioned environment we can prepare ourselves to use the desire of others instead of others - beyond fulfilling our basic necessities - with the intention of being, supporting, serving them instead of serving ourselves.
This is a long, difficult, gradual process using the special atmosphere of the closed environment where each member commits to reach the same goal, to find and fulfill our unique evolutionary role by acquiring a new, selfless, objective consciousness, perception of reality through others.
This gradual process is started, conducted through building habits, exercising, “play-acting” selfless, altruistic, unconditional service towards the others, investing as much effort as possible towards helping, serving others in the right environment in a practical, mutual matter. In this activity we can recruit, use the instinctive Human traits of envy, jealousy, desire for more, desire for respect in a positive, constructive manner.
Living through “true love”
But at the end of the day the true breakthrough, acquiring truly selfless, altruistic, unconditionally serving qualities is possible only by obtaining “true love”. “True love” is a state when we receive, feel such an overwhelming attraction, inspiration towards those others that we simply can’t think about ourselves any longer.
This breaking point appears when through the habit, exercises, constant investment into others, using envy and all the desires purposefully we reach such a yearning, need for “true love of others” that this need, aspiration overshadows, subdues all other needs, desires.
Then we awaken the previously dormant “true love” in us, which allows us to start living, sensing life through the desires of others “outside of the store". This “true love”also gives us so far hidden similarity with Nature’s “life giving”, all-encompassing “love”, energy that creates, sustains life in the Universe.
When this “true love”, ability appears in us it is very clear that it is like a “second nature”, an ability, urge, inclination we never felt in us before, which acts above and against the original egotistic, selfish program we still also feel.
Through the newly acquired, discovered “true/Natural love” we acquire similarity, integration with Nature above, against the original egotistic, subjective background. It is in this contrast, comparative research where the “truly Human being” starts to develop.