Buying eternity through love

By default, we consider “love” a warm, pleasant, fuzzy, moving feeling when we covet, yearn for, follow, embrace, live with things, people who give us that warm, pleasant, fuzzy, moving feeling.

We sense — especially when we “love” people ‘ that we would do anything for them, we keep thinking, dreaming about them, we can’t sleep, we always want to be around the one we love.

But at the end of the day, it is always about “us”, the lover. Do I still have that unique, warm, pleasant, fuzzy, moving feeling, do I still get my inspiration, liveliness, extra energy from this “love”, from my “muse”? It is the notion of “loving” someone, even something imaginary through platonic love that keeps us interested, alive.

When this inner excitement, hormonal supply, poetic interest wanes our “love” dies, regardless of the “beloved”. Most of the time the “beloved” does not change, we change, and by that change the “love” dies as it has always been about us.

In a natural, absolute sense “love” is absolute, unconditional care, when the “lover” disappears, dissolves into the “beloved”, when the changes, personal states of the “lover” do not influence of the “loving” connection since the “lover” exists in the “beloved”, fulfilling the needs, desires of the “beloved” exactly according to the viewpoint, the expectation of the “beloved” without any personal, egocentric, subjective calculations from the viewpoint “lover”.

Inherently we can truly love only ourselves. Through our completely egocentric, subjective, individualistic consciousness, perception of reality we live inside our own bubble. We serve, fulfill our own needs unconditionally, according to our own pleasure/pain viewpoint, and we sense from reality only the parts, layers that can help us serving, fulfilling ourselves, that can help our own personal survival.

This is neither evil nor sinful, we are simply born that way. But as a result, our existence, life experience is very limited, it is bound to the life of the biological body whose existence we associate ourselves with. We experience life within the egocentric, subjective boundaries of time, space, motion through the limited, egocentric impressions our personal observer receives through our 5 physical senses until the biological body dies and we lose consciousness, perception of this physical reality.

The only — remote — example of true love in our world is the mother’s unconditional love towards her baby, when the mother’s focus is so strong on serving the baby that she does not even feel hunger, sickness, tiredness, becoming capable of “supernatural” efforts especially when the baby, the child is sich, requiring more than normal care. This “motherly love” is given by Nature through primordial instincts to serve the survival, continuation of each species.

We can build a similar “motherly love” through habit. For example parents of adopted children keep on showering the new child with gifts, care, attention in order to attach the child to themselves until they develop such a fondness, connection, “love” towards the adopted child that can become stronger than their instinctive love towards their own, natural children. This is of course still the “usual love”, since they want to obtain the love, attachment of the adopted child, still, it is already a higher quality love than the usual, instinctive, hormonal one as they have to make an extra effort, “buying the love” of the adopted child.

Through a unique, purposeful, and highly practical method we can develop this above method of “building love” mutually to such an extent, that we reach a unique breaking point when through the mutual investment into each other — in between people who have otherwise no instinctive, familial connection with one another — we “fall in love” in the true, absolute sense of the expression.

This means, that by constantly aiming at getting to know, getting to feel the needs, desires of the others in a small, purposeful, goal (true love) oriented environment, trying to see things through their viewpoints rising above, escaping from the originally egocentric, subjective viewpoint an unprecedented thing happens. If the members of this closed circle keep supporting each other, keep pulling, pushing one another with all possible means — for example with positive envy, positive jealousy — making reaching “true love” the most important thing in their lives, they reach a special breaking point.

They reach the wall of their inherent self-love, self-protection, individual survival reflex which simply cannot let a person to love another instead of one’s self. But if they managed to make “true love” truly the most important, if they feel they simply can’t live without experiencing that totally liberated feeling of not caring about themselves any longer, shaking off all egocentric, subjective restrictions and their mutual support is strong enough, they suddenly “fall in love”, fall into a previously seemingly non- existence “space”, like the connective tissue in between cells, organs of the body where all the communication, circulation takes place.

Instead of feeling either themselves or the others, they start existing — with their selfless, objective observer point that has become liberated from the original self — within their connections. As a result, they leave behind a single-cell, digital, “Newtonian” system and enter a boundless, “quantum-like” dimension where time, space, physical motion disappear. It is a completely new, boundless consciousness, perception of reality we can all reach here and now, while still also existing within the biological body in the known, limited, subjective dimension.

And actually we have to reach this unlimited, infinite and eternal consciousness, perception while living in our present bodies, as only through the contrast in between the two “dimensions” can we verify that what we now feel is true, realistic and we do not just imagine it for ourselves. But when we already achieved the new, selfless, objective, “quantum” perception it won’t matter if our biological body stops functioning, as our selfless observer can continue existing, perceiving without any problems.